Love Letter #8: The ultimate guide to becoming the person you needed as a child

Dear Healing Human Being,

This love letter is your go-to guide on how to become the person you needed most as a child ❤️‍🩹

The guide involves:

🌟 What the inner child is and what healing our inner child looks like

🌟 Why we should heal our inner child

🌟 The four main types of inner child wounds + how we can heal each type of wound

🌟 Other methods on how we can heal our inner child

I also include personal examples, stories, and metaphors to help you understand each concept better :)

As promised, here are the questions and affirmations for each inner child wound. You can use whichever ones help you discover more about yourself and heal your wound.

1. Abandonment wound

   1. Questions:

      • What did you feel when you were left alone?

      • What did you need most from your caregivers that you didn’t receive?

   2. Affirmation: “I’m here for you, and I will not abandon you.”

2. Guilt wound

   1. Questions:

      • How can you assert your own boundaries in relationships?

      • What needs of yours are you NOT prioritising when you say yes to others?

   2. Affirmations:

      • “It’s okay to say no and prioritise my own needs”

      • “I am not responsible for the way others feel.”

3. Neglect wound

   1. Questions:

      • What did you feel when you were neglected?

      • What do you find uncomfortable about being alone?

   2. Affirmations:

      • “It’s okay to be vulnerable”

      • “I am worthy no matter what people around me do”

4. Trust wound

   1. Questions:

      • What do you need to feel safe and comfortable?

      • What situations make you feel like detaching or distancing yourself?

   2. Affirmations:

      • “I trust myself and I rely on my own validation “

Also, here are some useful resources about inner child healing & wounds (as well as any studies I mentioned):

• https://positivepsychology.com/inner-child-healing/

• https://iembracetherapy.com/healing-inner-child-wounds/

• https://theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk/blog/healing-inner-child-wounds/

• https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/caterpillar-butterfly-metamorphosis-explainer/

• https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8273193/

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Sending you and your inner child so much love!

Love,

Your Favourite Scientist